Family Invites Disrespectful Creep To Woman's Surprise Birthday Party Instead Of Her Disabled Husband

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Feb 10, 2022 12:30 PM EST

Reddit's infamous "Am I the A$$hole?" subreddit always has the craziest family drama to offer. In today's episode, OP tells us that ever since her husband became disabled, her mother has been trying to set her up with some random dude named James, even though she's said it makes her extremely uncomfortable time and again. For a couple of months, her mom let it go, but all of a sudden, James showed up at her surprise birthday party - and her husband was nowhere to be found. James bought her jewelry as a birthday gift - to make matters worse - and nastily asked if her husband could afford the same. Yuck. In my opinion, James totally sucks, and so does OP's mom. What do you guys think of this very uncomfortable situation? Let us know in the comments. 

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    Font - r/AmItheAsshole · Posted by u/throwRA33554 17 hours ago 18 11 3 14 E 30 AITA - For walking out the surprise birthday party my family threw for me? I, 26F have been married to my wheelchair bound husband Adam. For 2 years. His disability was a result of a major car accident shortly after we got back from our honeymoon. His
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    I was not prepared for this kinda sadness today. It's too early. Thanks, AITA. 

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    Human body - injuries were too severe and no one thought he was going to get better. my life certainly changed because now I have tons of responsibilities but I'm happy and blessed to still have him in my life.
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    Font - Before the accident my family used to invite Adam to events and dinners and visit all the time but not anymore. They don't see him much but help out with our financial struggles. I been told that being caregiver is huge and unfair since I'm young. My mom tried to set me up with a guy named James
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    Font - (her friend's son) by inviting me to lunch with him or giving him my number/SM accounts. I told her it won't work I love Adam and will care for him for the rest of my life if I had to. I put space between me family and said unless they stop bringing James who was disrespectful towards Adam around me, I won't visit them. Mom apologized and I haven't seen James in months which was a relief.
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    Facial expression - My birthday was days ago and I had to work that day but planned to celebrate with Adam in the evening. At 3pm I got a phonecall from mom asking me to stop by once I get off work. I arrived at mom's house to find my entire family there
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    Font - setting up a surprise birthday party. I was thrilled, I didn't think they'd even pay for a party after already helping me with money. I asked if I could go bring Adam so we could celebrate together but they stalled saying my brother will bring him but the door rang and there was James. I was confused I asked what he was doing there. Mom said I should
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    Font - relax she invited him and his mom. I remained calm and took the gift James brought after so much hasiation. I opened it and there was some jewelry piece. He made a snide comment asking if Adam was ever able to afford such piece of jewelry. I closed the box and gave it back. They insisted I take it but grabbed my bag and said I was leaving.
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    Font - Mom said I should stay because the family, sisters, brother, aunt, nephew came together to do this for me. I told her it was rude of her to catch me off guard and invite James to the party. She and dad followed after I walked out asking me to return but I kept walking. Mom and aunt left messages saying It was disrespectful to walk out like that after the efforts they made to celebrate my birthday. They said I had
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  • 09
    Font - have made a scene and embarrassed them ifront of their friends. They said I screwed up and overreacted by being hostile towards those who were trying to be nice and take my mind off the stress. AITA.
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    Font - *I haven't told Adam about it so he wouldn't be burdened with family issues. He's still emotionally recovering and I'm being careful about the stuff that would upset him. I found him asleep when I got home, he usually sleeps as early as 5pm. We didn't have a celebration but talked in the morning.
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    Font - Brickolas75 · 17h Partassipant [4] NTA - the James stuff goes far beyond "trying to be nice" that's some evil shit right there. It's ironic because you had literally just married your husband - in the vows there's always that "in sickness and in health" stuff, and they want you to straight up abandon your husband the second he needs you.
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    Font - ThinScallion8697 · 17h NTA. Not even a teeny tiny little bit. But curiosity has me Wondering,did you find out if your brother was actually going to get your husband? The answer has no sway on my ruling, I'm just curious.
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    Font - whisker-kitty · 17h Asshole Aficionado [13] NTA. Do not let your family manipulate you. Your family's behavior is beyond disgusting. I'm so sorry that you had to go through that. James seems like a total creep.
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    Human body - Slow-Management9570 · 17h Nta. Your family hates your husband, and they see your love as throwing your life away. Every interaction with them will be tainted by this.
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